Ask Amy: Advice for the Real World

Dear Amy: I have a friend who has a full-time job and has started selling cosmetics on the side.

I support her right to pursue additional income, but am extremely uncomfortable with friends using friends as a revenue stream.

I’ve noticed an uptick in her emails, and she always includes her website and other information about the cosmetics in the emails.

She has not asked me directly to purchase anything or invited me to any sales “events,” but I anticipate one/both happening soon.

How do I politely decline?

— Tupper-wary in NJ

Dear Tupper-wary: You can respond to sales entreaties with an enthusiastic, “No thanks, I’m all set, but congratulations, and good luck with your business!” Don’t judge this woman for being an entrepreneur, but definitely exercise your own right to spend your money the way you want to.

Dear Amy: “Need Advice” asked a very sensible question about how men can handle the burden of being falsely accused of sexual harassment in the workplace. You basically snapped back, even though this is a very valid question!

— Disappointed Reader

Dear Disappointed: The man described the burden of being a “straight white male” in the workplace. I’m not aware that straight white males have an extra burden. In my response, I drew attention to and praised the scores of male colleagues I’ve had over four decades who managed not to harass or be accused of harassment simply by behaving professionally.

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