DEAR AMY: When we first moved into our neighborhood about eight months ago we noticed our cat-loving neighbors starting to invite our cat, “V,” into their home.
They let him have free rein and even let him sleep with them on their bed at night with their other cats.
At our house, “V” gets a cozy bed, quality organic food and lots of love. We don’t, however, let him sleep on our bed or jump on the counters or do whatever he wants.
They have hinted that they would appreciate us giving them money for the extra food our cat eats while “vacationing” in their home.
He stays with us most nights but wanders over there during all hours.
I want to remain on good terms with my generally good-natured neighbors but do not want to enable their enabling by giving them money for cat food. Am I wrong? Any suggestions? — Shoo Kat
DEAR SHOO: Your cat should not be roaming the streets, catting around. In addition to the awkwardness with your neighbors, your cat could be exposed to infectious diseases such as feline leukemia — along with the old-fashioned bad influence your neighbors convey.
You could also face a situation where your cat simply prefers your neighbor’s house to yours and repatriates. Are you prepared to fight over custody of this cat?
If you aren’t willing to keep your cat indoors, tell your neighbors, “Please don’t let ‘V’ into your house. We don’t think it’s a good idea, and we worry about him when we can’t find him.”
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