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DEAR ABBY: My wife and I are having a disagreement about texting. She insisted that you can text anyone anytime — day or night. I feel you shouldn’t text after a time when you wouldn’t call someone.

Cellphones are set to ring when texts come in just as land lines do. I say if you don’t need an immediate response, send an email. What is proper etiquette regarding when people should send texts? — POLITE IN KATY, TEXAS

DEAR POLITE: I don’t think there are hard-and-fast rules of etiquette regarding texting — yet. But common sense would suggest that if people suspect they “might” disturb someone by texting, then they should refrain. Of course, recipients who don’t wish to be interrupted can put their cellphones on silent or turn them off.

If the texts you’re arguing about are intruding on time the two of you should be concentrating on each other, I see no reason why they shouldn’t be answered until the next day.

DEAR ABBY: Our family is moving into a new house soon. When we were looking at the house, our 10-year-old daughter asked if she could have the bigger bedroom. We said yes, and our 12-year-old son said he “didn’t care.” We have been in contract for two months and have gone to see the house several times. When we did our final walk-through, our son pulled my husband aside and said because he is older, he should get the bigger bedroom.

Of course, our daughter is upset. My husband seems to think the older kid should get his way. My thought is that our son had more than two months to speak up, but at the 11th hour the green-eyed monster is emerging. What do you think? — STARTING ANEW IN OHIO

DEAR STARTING ANEW: I think that at this point, to keep peace in your new home, it would be advisable for your children to draw straws to decide who gets the larger bedroom.