We all know that men and women are different in many ways. While I wouldn’t make claims about all males and females, I am able to see distinct differences between my husband Shane and I that are, in many ways, quite humorous.
Here’s a look at a few of them.
Body temperature. Shane seems to always be hot, no matter the time of year. I on the other hand, am often cold. He enjoys the fan blowing on him every night, even in the winter. I bundle up with a warm blanket, pulling it up to my chin throughout the year.
In Shane’s opinion, males are naturally warmer than females, and therefore, our 21-month old son Zachary is likely warm most of the time too. But our son is a young kiddo — so I disagree with this idea of Shane’s.
My husband is happy dressing our son in cool-weather clothes day and night no matter if it’s July or January. I don’t mind an extra layer during the cold months.
Clothing purchases. Another apparent difference? Our clothes-buying methods.
Shane can walk into a store, pick up some shirts and a pair or two of pants and confidently take them to the cash register sans visiting the dressing room. He says it doesn’t have to fit perfectly, so why bother trying it on?
I rarely buy things that I haven’t tried on at the store first. Clothes in hand, I head to the dressing room. Out of the many garments I try on, I usually purchase only a few.
When I come home from shopping, I try my clothes on again. I’m pretty convinced some clothing stores have specially-designed mirrors that ensure you look good no matter what you are wearing. What looked great in the dressing room doesn’t always look the same in my mirror at home.
On my most recent trip back to a store to return a shirt, I explained this uncanny thought to the sales clerk. To my surprise, she agreed with me. She tries on clothes at home too, only to return them later. It appears I am not the only one with this issue.
Details. Shane mostly volunteers a one-word — sometimes two if I’m lucky — answer to how his workday was: “fine,” “good” or “busy.” It’s not that he doesn’t want to converse with me. He just says, “If nothing exciting happens at work, I don’t feel the need to bore you with my day.”
On the other hand, when Shane asks me how my day went, he’s likely to get a detailed explanation of everything that happened during the day, in the exact order of events. That’s just how I work — I like details. Shane uses fewer details, but we accept that about each other.
Haircuts: Shane cannot remember the last time he went to a barber to get a haircut. He cuts his hair himself. He tells me he’s not too concerned with how his hair looks; he’s happy saving some money.
I tried this method once, and it is not for me. When I was in high school, for some reason I decided to cut my long hair myself. I kept on cutting and ended up with ear-length hair. Short hair is great, but I overdid it a bit. Ever since, I’ve gone to a professional when I want to get my hair cut.
Directions: We’ve all heard this before and it sure applies to my husband. When in an unfamiliar place, Shane is not inclined to ask for help with directions. If we can’t find our destination when on vacation, I am all for stopping to ask for guidance. Shane would rather try to find the place by himself. He says it’s a “guy thing” about pride. He tells me if he asked for directions, he would be admitting that he is lost, and he’s not excited about acknowledging that.
At the end of the day, Shane and I really are alike in many ways. I have to admit it was entertaining discussing with him some of the things we do very differently. But they are minor and, after all, opposites attract, right?