What is this maternal sentiment for 'poor' Dzhokhar?

2013-04-30T00:00:00Z What is this maternal sentiment for 'poor' Dzhokhar?Hanna Rosin Slate Arizona Daily Star
April 30, 2013 12:00 am  • 

WASHINGTON - It's not all that surprising that the suspected Boston bombers, particularly younger brother Dzhokhar, have already inspired passionate crushes in girls.

There is a Tumblr called Free Jahar, as his would-be girlfriends call him, anchored by a photo of him kicking back in his Timberlands.

As Rachel Monroe wrote last year in her excellent essay for the Awl, "The Killer Crush," extravagant murderers like James Holmes (the Aurora, Colo., shooter) and the Columbine boys tend to bring on alarming fevers of admiration from teenagers, and maybe some of them grow up to be the women who marry the guys in prison.

The fan-girl fantasies involve an injured Dzhokhar showing up at your house and lots of Florence Nightingale-like ministrations (before they get porn-y, of course).

Here is a scene from one posted on the "Free Jahar" site:

(Dzhokhar) sounded much more terrified than you could have possibly been. "Are you OK?" You begged him to tell you he was fine, nobody really knew. "I'm hit, in the leg, but I- wait what? You're asking if I'm OK?" He was surprised, but calmer now. "I know you didn't do it, and even if you did, I know you aren't harmful." He sighed with your words, he felt safe for the first time since he saw his face on the television.

But what stands out in the ardor for Dzhokhar is a deep maternal strain.

Given what the man is accused of doing - killing an 8-year-old, among others, and helping to set off bombs that were loaded to maim - how do you explain that? In the couple of weeks I have not been to a school pickup, birthday, book party or dinner where one of my mom friends has not said some version of "I feel sorry for that poor kid." This group includes mothers of infants and grandmothers and generally pretty reasonable intelligent types.

Many of them mention that ubiquitous photo of Dzhokhar with his hair tousled and too few hairs on his chin to shave. Some mention the "I love you, bro" tweets from his many friends. Some just seem anguished by the vision of that "poor kid" alone in the boat by himself, bleeding for all those hours.

All of this sympathy stems, of course, from the story line that coalesced early: a hapless genial pothead being coerced into killing by his sadistic older brother. As with such story lines, all evidence to the contrary gets suppressed.

Probably the correct moral response to this misplaced maternal sympathy is the one a Slate colleague had, which is to say: "People, please. Cut that ... out. He's an adult and a mass murderer." There is evidence that he was not just a pot smoker but a dealer, and also like his brother, he was a fan of jihad. Also the photos of him at the actual bombing site are not so heartwarming, as they show him surveying the crowd he is about to blow up. After all, I don't recall any grown-ups I know feeling sorry for Lee Boyd Malvo, the teenage half of the D.C. sniper duo, or Dylan Klebold, the weak half of the Columbine killers.

Maybe the lesson is that just like teenage ardor, unleashed maternal sympathy is a powerful force that can land in strange places. Maybe (and the most depressing answer) this all stems from the fact that Dzhokhar is cute.

Or maybe (the most hopeful answer) the maternal sympathy will help us get to a more sophisticated understanding of homegrown terrorists. With every one that comes our way, we search for the day they went overseas, traveled to a mosque in Egypt or Yemen or Chechnya, and got radicalized. But the truth is that their time in the U.S. almost always plays a big part in their transformation. They try to assimilate and either succeed all too well and become disgusted with themselves or are stymied.

Maybe the mothers drawn to Dzhokhar don't want to bring him home and lay a warm cloth on his brow. But they are struggling in some way not to disown him. And that will in the end help us better understand people like him and what forms them. And if that's not true, then they should just cut it out.

Hanna Rosin is the author of "The End of Men," a co-founder of Slate's DoubleX and a senior editor at the Atlantic. She can be reached at hanna.rosin@gmail.com

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