Local opinion: Want happiness? Here are some ideas

A significant majority of Pima County residents voted for Ms. Harris. They are not happy. Putting Mr. Trump aside, I would like to address the broader question of how does one achieve happiness over the long term? I know what I am about to write, given the recent presidential election results, will perhaps feel like platitudes to some of you, but we need to look beyond the immediate. I hope all voters whatever their political party will find some benefit in reading the following.

I think of happiness as a general sense of contentment and satisfaction with life. There will be times of sadness and upset, as well as exaltation and pure joy. These are the ups and downs of life.

Despite these ups and downs, which can make life interesting and particularly meaningful, we still look for steadiness, assuring us that the various parts of our life are in balance and that we are in harmony with our environment.

I think we can achieve happiness over the long term in the following ways:

1. Accept that life is fantastic. “Rejoice in wonders daily shown,” as one hymnal states. If you believe you are on this earth only once, then your mission should not only be to survive but to learn about life in all its manifestations as much as you are able. Exploring and engaging life not only prevents boredom but also significantly enhances the chances of being happy.

2. Accept that life is a challenge. Failure, imperfections, change and death are givens of life. You have to accept the ebb and flow of life (and election results) and adjust accordingly. And if you do, then you have no need to fight life, get angry, and think you have been dealt a bad hand.

3. Take control of your life. Abraham Lincoln said, “Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” You can control your mind to stop negative thoughts. You cannot put a positive spin on everything that happens to you, but finding the lessons from experience allows you to move forward. It is essential to let bygones be bygones. You cannot let a negative experience or person (like an abusive boss) in your present or past existence occupy your mind. Do not associate with people who belittle you and see life as a downer, rather find people who are optimistic and appreciate you for who you are. Be positive. For some, being positive does not come easily; like being a good musician or athlete, it takes practice and discipline.

4. Be yourself, accept yourself. You are unique. You have a niche, a place in the world. Accept there will be fits and starts in finding that niche and allow others to help you along the way. But don’t let others define you. “In thine own self by true.” Follow your conscience; don’t do things that do not feel right to you. Learn to say “no” graciously. We all have aggravating idiosyncrasies; accepting those in others will allow others to accept yours.

5. Don’t worry. Worrying is only useful if it leads to a decision for action that solves a problem. Otherwise, worrying is not worth the effort, particularly if you have no control over the situation. In that case, remember the phrase, “And this too will pass.” If a problem is not resolved with one action, then make another decision. Rather than complain to someone, it is better to state the problem and ask if they can help you solve it.

6. In times of stress, like now for some of you, take a break, do more of what you like to do. Playing with your kids, seeing friends and catching up, going hiking, attending a concert, focusing on a hobby, or providing support for someone in need.

To conclude, happiness over the long term is obtainable and perhaps by following these suggested steps you will be on your way to achieve it. I hope so!