Some coping strategies while searching for job

I am one among that growing multitude of job-seekers in a thinning market, hoping to find a part-time position where I can meet the public and be of service. That's why, after all the gloom- and-doom stories of layoffs and store closings, that simple sign was such a morale booster.

Books and articles abound that tell us how to be one of the lucky ones who not only know what color their parachute is but can land on their feet with both 'chute and soul intact. But what do we do during that down time between interviews or while waiting for a call back?

Equally important, what tapes do we play in our heads while we're doing it? I do a lot of positive self-talk about how I have survived tough economic periods in the past and can do so again (substitute teaching is always an option). Other coping mechanisms that work for me include:

● Stay away from the fridge. At this time, the fridge is a "frenemy," or an enemy disguised as a friend. First, I don't put much tempting food in the refrigerator. When I do succumb to temptation and look, I find nothing in there but the same stuff I saw the last time: fruit, soy milk, cottage cheese, salad fixings and an old jar of pickles I should have thrown away months ago. Not exactly the stuff made for a snack attack.

● Combine regular exercise with social activities, such as yoga classes or bicycling with a friend. When I make some healthy choices for food and exercise, it makes me feel that at least in a few areas, I have some control over my life.

Working out and staying connected to others also keeps us job-seekers from staying home and planning a pity party for one, an activity that practically guarantees a spiral downward.

● Remember to give myself and others a few treats. Lunch out with the girls or the occasional splurge on one of the ganga deals advertised everywhere may save you money in the long run at the therapist's office.

Can't afford to go shopping? Talk show host Oprah Winfrey recently devoted an entire program to inexpensive gift ideas. One suggestion was to simply write a loving message to someone on a special piece of stationery. Those heartfelt words will be reread long after the holidays are over. My neighbor Paula is making sparkly Christmas tree ornaments for friends with supplies found at a local craft store.

Crafting also gives us that feeling of accomplishment so important during the tough waiting game. I just finished knitting a winter scarf and am on to my next project.

● Talk to everybody, especially older folks, who have inspiring stories of survival to tell. Maybe their stories will help you put your problems in perspective, or even give you ideas for facing them.

● Most important, take time to appreciate what you do have. My orange tree has a bumper crop for the first time since I planted it eight years ago. And friends . . . what would I do without good friends, with whom I can still share a few laughs,

I've heard it said that tough times don't last. Not only that but let's hope they make great stories of survival for the next generation!