Primate Behavior

Q: My husband and I have been married for three years. Each of us has a son from a previous marriage, and we have a son together. His son is more animated than I’d like, and I’m having trouble getting close to him. Since he’s only with us every other weekend, it sometimes feels like he’s a guest and I’m babysitting the ex’s child, not part of our shared family. This makes me feel even more ...

Q: My ex and I just broke up. I know, great time of year. Obviously, it was a surprise to me. So, here's what I am facing: I've been invited to a New Year's Eve party and I'm sure he'll be there with his new girlfriend. I want to go, but I already feel embarrassed and awkward, and I have no idea how to handle it. What's good ex-etiquette? A: A breakup during the holidays is emotionally loaded. ...

Q: The holidays are coming, and this is my first-year post-breakup. I'm stressed, more emotional than I have ever been, and overwhelmed and not looking forward to interacting with my children's mother. What's good ex-etiquette when you're trying to manage your own stress while co-parenting through the holidays? A: The holidays amplify everything -- joy, grief, nostalgia and stress. When you're ...

Q. Our kids seem overwhelmed since the breakup. This is their first holiday in two separate homes, and they are having trouble even knowing how to talk about the holidays. They're also clingier during exchanges, waking up at night and constantly asking who they'll be with. We keep telling them everything will be OK, but nothing is helping. What's good ex-etiquette? A: What you're describing is ...