● DEAR ABBY: I agree with your advice to "Looking Twice in Idaho," who had concerns about his girlfriend's lack of a college degree. You suggested premarital counseling.
Not all college degrees are created equal, and a degree doesn't automatically insulate a person from life's misfortunes or economic setbacks. This couple should make sure they have compatible financial and personal goals. However, the prospective groom should not assume that a lack of a college diploma will cripple his future wife's earning potential any more than his possession of one will guarantee it. — Lisa in San Jose, Calif.
DEAR LISA: Many readers wrote to say that marriage should be based on love, not love of money. But opinions about who should leave that relationship and why varied. Read on:
● DEAR ABBY: It's the girlfriend who should exit the relationship — the sooner the better!
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"Looking" equates success with the future paycheck of a woman he says is kind and considerate, and who loves him. He, not she, will be the problem in any potential marriage. His attitude will destroy any marriage he enters into. — Tom in Aliquippa, Pa.
● DEAR ABBY: Since when does love require a college degree? This is the silliest excuse I have ever seen for trying to get rid of someone.
I never graduated from high school, but I did get a GED. My husband spent seven years in college and received his bachelor's and master's in English.
I started working for a furniture store when I was 17 and have been there ever since. My better-educated husband earns less than half of what I do — proof that a piece of paper does not make one a success! Love is blind, and it does not earn a salary. — The Breadwinner in Cincinnati
● DEAR ABBY: I, too, have only a high school education. Twenty years ago, I married a professional. I married him for "love" and thought that was why he married me. Over the years, I have realized that in his eyes, love and money are on the same page. I have overheard him talking with his friends, saying, "Well, she only makes enough money for groceries!"
"Looking" should break up with that girl before she wastes any more time on him. — Grocery Girl in Glen Allen