So much of the time we put off feeling joy. More than half of the vacation days Americans get from their employers go unused. Many people are afraid to take time off because they’re fearful someone may try to step in to take their jobs. Others think that cashing in those vacation days is better for their finances, and that may be true, but giving up your vacation time may take away from that bundle of things you have to look forward to.
Dr. Barton Goldsmith
Happiness comes when you are moving toward your goals, and planning a vacation can be one of them. Just thinking about an upcoming vacation can give you a lift. Having future plans is so important. I often tell clients who are going away on a summer trip to start discussing the next great family adventure as soon as possible after they return. Making plans should always be near the top of your to-do list.
Too many people push their personal joy aside. It’s so important to give yourself some special moments and make some memories to share and look back on. Having a balance of work and play in your life actually decreases the likelihood of developing disorders like anxiety, depression and burnout. Finding your joy also will help keep you in good physical health.
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When stressed, we don’t function as well as we would like, and most of the world knows this simple fact. Americans take the least vacation time of any developed nation. It’s good to be industrious, but you can’t be creative when you’re overwhelmed and your brain and body are crying for a break. Please listen to yourself, family members and coworkers, and if you see that those around you need more joy in their lives, you probably do as well.
In addition to taking vacations in other parts of the country or the world, there is much you can enjoy closer to home. In fact, the staycation has become a ritual for many. Between going to nearby campgrounds or taking day trips, you can enjoy things you haven’t seen or done before.
Couples who do new things together tend to build strong relationships. This closeness comes from the hormone oxytocin (also known as the cuddle hormone), which becomes stronger when you seek out new activities with your partner. Seeking a little joy in your life in this way is not only good for you but also good for your partner and your relationship.
Some folks who are doing the single life may not see a benefit in going on vacation alone, which is understandable. You can ask a friend or relative to take a trip with you. If no one is available, there also are singles cruises, trips, and more local activities. All you have to do is take the time to look. A quick internet search should help you find many things to do, no matter what your circumstances.
Go ahead and give yourself a vacation. If postponing joy has been your habit, it’s time to break it. After a week or two of relaxation and adventure, you will come back to your regular life feeling refreshed, and be able accomplish so much more. You also will reap the benefit of making memories that will last forever.
Dr. Barton Goldsmith, an award-winning Los Angeles-based psychotherapist, writer and keynote speaker, can be reached via e-mail at Barton@BartonGoldsmith.com.
